Speed Dating Tips… Is it for everyone?

Three Step Dating has taken the time to compile a list of tips to help you maximize your speed dating experience and match success, so that your speed dating event will be time well spent. *Some of these tips are for men specifically and others are for both men and women. So if the shoe fits you wear it!

The Speed Dating Mindset

*During a speed dating event, too many people pretend to be someone they are not in hopes of getting more people interested in them, and
more dates. They may get more dates, but they will be wasting
everyone’s time. Think about it this way: if you want to find someone
to be with for the long haul, they need to like you for who you are.
Communicate who you are from the very first date, and you’ll not only
find someone, you’ll find the RIGHT someone.

*The very nature of speed dating can create stress — you think you have to convince people to like you in 7 minutes or less. To eliminate that stress, you have to approach speed dating with the right mindset. Don’t think of it as “your only chance” or a “single opportunity.” View the speed dating event as something fun,and exciting yet efficient way to meet new people, and possibly meet that very special someone. If you
can laugh at the idea of speed dating, you can take the pressure off of
you. Then you can enjoy the experience, and hopefully work your way
successfully through all of your dates.

Speed Dating: Only For The Desperate?

*A common misconception of dating services is that they are filled with desperate people. Remember this — people who seek out a dating service are taking control of their love life. Today, dating over the internet and events like speed dating are becoming more and more common because
the demands of modern life often inhibit our ability to meet new people
and form new relationships. Speed dating, rather than being an activity
of the desperate, is instead an accepted way for busy people to meet
each other.

Speed Dating Dress Code

*Speed dating means you are going to meet a lot of people, so you want to make a good first impression. Obviously make sure you are freshly showered and that you have brushed your teeth. And when dressing for the big event, dress nicely. Remember, you aren’t going clubbing, but
you aren’t going to work, either. So select an outfit that tells people
a little about your personality and interests. The most important speed
dating tip: don’t try to look like someone you aren’t. Be who you are,
quirks and all.

*Speed dating is all about first impressions, so appearance is especially important. You need to look your best and be clean and well groomed. Find out where the event is being held and match your dress to their code.Dress up for a fancy restaurant, dress more casually for a
bar. You want to look your best, but you still want to look like you.

Speed Date Preparation

*Everybody prepares for dates in different ways, but the unique structure of speed dating demands that you at least have some idea of your dating preferences. Before you go into the session, develop an idea of your likes and dislikes. It may help to make a list, write down
personality quirks that annoy you and any potential “deal breakers”,
traits or habits that you would never want to find in a person you
date. If any of your speed dates display these traits, then you can
quickly eliminate them as viable companions. It also helps to compile a
short mental list of positive traits, either things that you like, or
things that you would like to experience when dating. Remember, it
never hurts to be a little adventurous!

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